Anger and shouting.

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Anger and shouting.

Postby cerina » 03 Sep 11, 4:52 pm

A Hindu saint who was visiting the river Ganges to take a bath found a group of family members on the banks, shouting in anger at each other. Smiling, he turned to his disciples and asked, ‘Why do people in anger shout at each other?’

The disciples thought for a while, and then one of them said,

‘Because when we lose our calm, we shout.’

‘But, why should you shout when the other person is just next to you? You can as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner,’ asked the saint.

The disciples gave more answers but none satisfied the saint. Finally he explained:

‘When two people are angry at each other, the distance between their hearts is larger. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other to cover that great distance.

What happens when two people fall in love? They don’t shout at each other but talk softly, because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is either nonexistent or very small…’

The saint continued, ‘When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally,a lovely old couple-they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that’s all that is needed to convey. That is how close two people are when they love each other.’

He looked at his disciples and said,

‘So when you argue, do not let your hearts get distant. Do not say words that distance you from each other more, or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not be able to find the path to return.’

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Re: Anger and shouting.

Postby mugley » 03 Sep 11, 5:47 pm

:thumb: thought provoking,, very good post
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Re: Anger and shouting.

Postby MrsNoMo » 08 Sep 11, 1:12 am

‘So when you argue, do not let your hearts get distant. Do not say words that distance you from each other more, or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not be able to find the path to return.’



So true. My ex used to shout a lot and say some nasty stuff in anger and then couldn't understand why I walked out after 14 years. Those words said in anger made the biggest "distance" ever. Even bloody GPS wouldn't help you find the way back.
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Re: Anger and shouting.

Postby cerina » 08 Sep 11, 1:32 am

Well done for walking, although it is a shame he wasn't able to work on his anger issues. Anger, shouting and belittling are as much abuse as any other form, and just as damaging.
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Re: Anger and shouting.

Postby MrsNoMo » 08 Sep 11, 10:22 am

Yeah, it's a shame but things are good now. He's not a bad person and I'm not a bad person but together we just don't work. We used to bring the worst out in each other. Now we get along great as friends. And that's a good thing because we have 2 kids together. You can say, in some twisted way, it's a happy ending. :)
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Re: Anger and shouting.

Postby cerina » 08 Sep 11, 4:55 pm

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Re: Anger and shouting.

Postby ScornedVixen » 21 Oct 11, 3:28 pm

That's so beautiful, and so true. My great aunt and Uncle never spoke much, but the love was so evident.

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